How To Deal With Getting Dumped
Geplaatst op 27-06-2025
Categorie: Lifestyle
Getting dumped sucks. It's just the worst. Not only is your heart hurt -- you're insulted because he got to do the dumping. Any gentleman will give you the opportunity to do the dumping first. But if he did, and you didn't, then this was coming, and you're better off in the long run. Face it - you're better off being with someone who doesn't want to dump you, and you'll recover, but for now, you - ve got to heal gracefully - which is a tall order for any dumpee. Try these do's and don'ts to stay on course.
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DO'S AND DON'TS IF YOU'RE DUMPED
1. Don’t call him and hang up.
Do call one of your best friends every time you have the urge to call him.
If you - ve been dumped, fight every impulse to call him just to hear his voice or say hello. It's over and the sooner you realize that, the sooner you'll be on your way to true love. So if you're feeling lovelorn and dump-sick, call a friend for some TLC, and let them tell you how much better off you are now.
2. Don’t cut off all your hair or dye it green.
Do rejuvenate with yoga and a massage.
There's a tendency to want to react to being dumped, by doing something drastic to show you're alive and on top of things. Try to ease that tendency so you don't do anything you may regret later. If, after a month, you still want to cut your hair boy-short and dye it green, then okay. But not the day after a break up! Do something life-affirming and non-drastic. Like an exercise class, a massage, a new nail polish color or a henna tattoo.
3. Don’t burn all the gifts he gave you.
Do put them all in a box in the garage. After three months donate them to charity.
You may be mad as hell and don't want to look at a single thing that reminds you of him, but temper your temper and put all remnants of him in a box in the attic or the garage. Think about giving them to charity and think about what particular charity would really appreciate the items. Make lemonade out of lemons.
4. Don’t call his family or friends.
Do call your family and friends.
It's over. Don't connect with his family or friends. It's truly inappropriate. Besides, if he's weak enough to be convinced by his family or friends to take you back, you have a relationship with someone who's easily swayed and that's going to result in more and bigger problems down the pike. Get together with your family and friends and ask them to support your healing and help you have some fun.
5. Don’t dwell on being dumped.
Do vent and then get over it. Try to put your feelings and his feelings for you in one category, and your actions and his in another. Chances are, if you separate out his behavior from his feelings, you’ll get over it faster.
Everyone gets over feelings at their own rate, but to help yourself move on, try to consciously not dwell on the break up. It's good to get it all out, but don't let the venting go on for weeks or months. If you're stuck in the negative part of the break up and find that you're getting bitter, get some professional help.
6. Don’t write him a letter and send it to him.
Do write him a letter and burn it.
There are always things you wish you - d said, but didn't in the heat of the moment. And things you wished you hadn't said. This is not the time to correct all that. The important thing is to move on. If writing a letter to him helps you get it out, great. But don't send it. You need to wrap this relationship up and put it to bed, and the sooner you do this, the better you'll feel. If you do write the letter, burn it in the sink. Make a ritual out of it as part of saying goodbye to all that you loved and hated about him.
7. Don’t sit in the house and sulk.
Do channel the newfound time you have into something fun and positive.